counselling therapy anger management

choose to use anger differently

'Anger management' is beneficial for many
people who know they get themselves into difficulties with their expression of anger and
who want to make a real change.


You might get angry too often or not often enough; you might become frightening to others or terrify yourself; you might always show your anger at the wrong time or never to the right person – the story of managing anger is different for each individual.

Anger management counselling is not designed to stop you feeling and expressing anger. Along with fear, joy and sadness, anger is one of the four most basic human emotions and is usually a healthy energetic process, though not often a 'nice' one. Learning more about the preconscious way you generate angry energy, and what its relational purpose might be, can help you to expand your emotional intelligence. To manage being angry well is to use anger wisely.

'Process’ is a key word in anger management. The emotion of anger is a movement – an action, not a thing. It is always an active communication about how you are processing a particular situation, whether past or present. Whenever you feel happy or angry or sad, you are naturally generating vital information about the way you exist in relation to other people. This 'mood data' is both internal (signals to yourself) and external (messages to others). Understanding your angering process means exploring three crucial aspects of self-awareness: your thinking style, your emotional logic, and your communication skills.

Anger is never activated in isolation from other emotions. Deep sadness (due to a bereavement, perhaps, or being rejected or betrayed) is often associated with anger. Some people who have anger management sessions are surprised to find that when they recognise and accept other strong feeling-states which they usually over-ride, this new emotional integration helps them to control their anger more easily and become more assertive socially. Just as importantly, it also helps them identify their ordinary human needs which are not currently being met.

Anger is controllable. With the right help, most of us can learn how to process our anger authentically and usefully, depending on our individual needs and desires.

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