No. 4 : From a lesser-known Ancient Greek philosopher...
“As long as everything is done exactly the way I want it, I’m totally flexible”
PANDEMICLES (470-399 BC)
I’ve worked as a counsellor and therapist in Cambridge for over 20 years, offering conversational, creative, challenging and encouraging therapy for adults. Having studied different counselling methods — both traditional and radical — I’m versatile in my approach to sensitive personal and social issues and how they can be resolved. People from minority groups are very welcome.
Honest therapeutic dialogue
There are several contrasting “modalities” and “brands” in the counselling and therapy field. I integrate powerful ideas from most of them. But what I value more than any particular psychological theory or counselling technique is being able to provide my clients with a reliable, meaningful, supportive and ethically confidential relationship through honest face-to-face therapeutic dialogue. Good counselling and therapy is rooted in a certain relational stance by the counsellor or therapist that’s hard to describe, but it definitely involves genuine attentiveness, candour, intelligent listening and reflection.
Due to the current 'social distancing' conditions, I'm providing all sessions online
• Weekly sessions in Cambridge are on Tues, Weds and Thursdays
• Counselling/therapy appointments are at 09:30, 11:00, 14:30, 16:00
• My fee is £60 (£90 for couples/pairs) for each one-hour session
• Call 01223 846884 or preferably email me (all messages are confidential)
A NOTE ABOUT ONLINE SESSIONS
Since the March lockdown, I've been working with all my clients by video (VSee or Zoom). Although ‘remote’ therapy has been firmly established in the counselling profession for several years, many practitioners who work online often start with face-to-face meetings in person — but, like most counsellors, I'm not currently offering this. If you decide to book an appointment with me and we haven't met before, I'll send you some brief practical notes about online sessions. As with all forms of counselling and therapy, it's important to be very clear about privacy and confidentiality right from the start. This understanding will form the basis of our initial therapeutic contract.
Reducing emotional overload
Feeling burdened with negative feelings seems to be the main reason why many people — at any stage in life — decide to seek personal therapy or anger management counselling with a suitable therapist. Relationship difficulties, problematic anger and anxiety, loss of confidence, sudden low moods, corrosive emotions like jealousy, bitterness and guilt — these are the sorts of issues counselling can help with. In my experience, such perennial human problems might not be resolved exactly, but more usefully ‘dis-solved’, in one way or another.
Increasing emotional depth
I also see people who aren’t necessarily struggling with tough personal problems but who are asking big questions of themselves and their important relationships. Periods of great change and uncertainty can be grim yet also growthful. Some of my clients feel the need to enrich their self-knowledge and re-invigorate their sense of direction — in their personal ‘inner’ life as well as the wider world. The kind of experimental therapeutic dialogue I offer seems to help. Some call it ‘soul work’, which sounds right to me. And it is a psychosocial activity: your personal therapy is not actually all about you. At a time when ecological, political and societal systems are in crisis, our deepest individual human emotions — anger, grief, sorrow — become vital resources for collective resilience and adaptation.
BACP Registered and Accredited Independent Counsellor Therapist and Supervisor working with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy’s Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions. Professional supervision for counsellors and therapists. All counselling, therapy and anger management sessions are held by appointment only at 8 Sefton Close, Trumpington, Cambridge CB2 9HY